Understanding is what reduces the frequency of argument in relationships.
The more we understand the uniqueness of our spouses, their expectation, fears, and preferences the better we can deal and live with them.
Interestingly, you do not understand people by simply living with them, you do by also engaging in communication with them. People will not understand your feelings by you being moody or merely wishing they did, you are going to have to communicate.
It is like trying to set up a new appliance without first going through the operations manual, you might damage it before ever getting to use it.
The truth is we have got to learn how best to live with our partners. This sometimes means putting aside how our father lived with our mother and recognizing that ours is a totally different relationship with totally different individuals. It may mean being weary of mere imitation of what other couples are doing.
It might require us to tell them while they in turn tell us how to!
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